Be not afraid of growing slowly, be afraid only of standing still.-Chinese Proverb
When I started this blog, in my wildest ever dream I haven’t imagined that one day this blog will reach up to the extent of 100 very happy & satisfied friends cum followers, I never imagined that I will receive these much love, affection, admiration, respect, support, care, co-operation from all these wonderful followers cum friends, I never imagined that the persona like me who hardly knows anything about writing will reach up to this extent, a person like me whose English is not up to the mark and still he commits lots of grammatical errors will be receive these much love from all these highly creative, highly talented, most educated, most distinguish, most literate, most sophisticated people of cyber world.
Yes, friends, it is very very true….
Because, when I started this blog; like all of you, I too was very new to the blogging world, I too was very anxious like all of you, I too was exited like all of you, I too was worried like all of you, I too was nervous like all of you, I too was like all of you with lots of self doubt in mind like all of you………….
In short, when I started this blog,
I was not superman or superwoman & still I am not,
I was not super human being & still I am not,
I was not person with extra ordinary talent and still I am not
I was not very knowledgeable person & still I am not,
I was not heroic or heroine type of person & still I am not,
I was not person with any amazing skill or tremendous talents & still I am not,
HONESTLY SPEAKING
Still,I am a person with average personality, average intelligence, average writing skill, average general knowledge like every other person on this planet,
So, now question comes, if I was and still I am with lots of lack and limitations, shortcomings and drawbacks
Why I have reach up to this extent?????????
The simple reasons of this question will be very useful to all of us, especially to those who wants overnight success, to those who wants overnight glamour and glory, to those who wants success at the flash of eyes, to those who just built their castles on air, to those who wants too achieve so many things in their life but hardly prepared to change their mind set.
Some of the harsh lessons, I learned during the process are worth to remember…..
BE NOT AFRAID OF GROWING SLOWLY BUT BE AFRAID ONLY OF STANDING STILL;
While reading many posts from my many blogger friends, this is the most shocking facts I came across, many of them were and far more talented than me, many of them are far more creative than me, many of them are far more imaginative than me, many of them are far more learned than me, many of them are far more good at writing and expressive than me in English languages, many of them had and still having dream to create their blog, but they hardly do anything on it.
So, first of all, remember there is a difference between dream and desire, dreams are nothing else but just the fantasy of mind, while desire is something that you want to do it badly, for dreaming you don’t have to do any efforts, but for converting that dream in to desire you have to do something, for dreaming about anything you don’t need to do anything, just sit or sleep and with open or close eyes you can see all the dreams, so, first of all, understand very well that there is a vast difference between dream and desire.
While having any doubt regarding creating your blog, instead of dreaming too much about it, just create it, that’s all, there are two types of pain; first; the things we don’t do, and the things we have done but not going well.
Remember first pain is much more sever and bitter and painful of not doing than the other pain of you have done something but not going well.
So, lesson no. 1 Start something whatever you want to do; instead of just having dream, start to put it in reality.
So, this is the first secret of success in blogging as well as in general life too,
If you want to do something in your life, whether wants to create your own blog, start to your own business, start to pursue any hobby, start it , remember every thousand steps journey starts with one small any tiny steps, for climbing the mountains you have to start from the bottom.
So, this is the one advice, I would like to pass on to all those who are reading this post,
Be not afraid of growing slowly, be afraid only of standing still.
Friends, never ever afraid of growing slowly but be afraid when you feel that you have been standing still like a dead body, you have been standing still like a stone, you have been standing still like deaf and dumb, yes, when you found in this situation it is critical time for you to evaluate and analyse yourself properly.
From my stats; I can see that this blog is viewed by almost all the countries of this planet and still I know from very beginning there are many people following me and out of them many of them might have read my first post and still they are reading my this post and out of them many of them might have thought to create their blog someday and still they are thinking, so, this post is completely dedicated to all these day dreamers,
Oh day dreamers, now stop your procrastination, now silent your inner self doubt, because, I am live example in front of you,
If I can do it why you can’t ???????????
What one quality that I possess an you don’t have it??????????
One characteristic I have and you don’t have it?????????????
only right click other wise CLICK HERE-ARE YOU AFRAID OF MISTAKES
No friends, you are much more smarter, shrewder, talented ,creative, imaginative than me, but, I choose not to stand still and today I am guiding you, today, I am giving advise to you, if you have started your own blog, the situation might had been vise versa, either you might have guided me or we both might have on equal level but you choose to stand still.
TODAY, I AM ASKING TWO QUESTIONS;
IF YOU ARE READER AND NOT BLOGGER WHAT STOPS YOU TO CREATE YOUR OWN BLOG?
IF YOU ARE BLOGGER WHAT WERE THE INITIAL DOUBTS IN YOUR MIND AND HOW YOU COPE OF WITH IT???????????????????
EAGERLY AWAITING TO READ YOUR STORIES…
WISHING YOU ALL THE BEST
QUOTATIONS, IDIOMS & PROVERBS 
Change is the only thing constant in this world ,rest everything is perishable .
First of all I am extremely sorry for the late response to your this wonderful post.
Thanks a lot for your visit, reading and comment on this post, I truly appreciate your this wonderful friendly gesture.
Since you are quiet new blogger, if you share your experience here, it will be beneficial for all the new bloggers, so, eagerly awaiting to read your story about very good beginning.
Wishing you all the best……………………..
I’m just a novice here and you’d have to elaborate on that !
Agreed! That is what I was gonna say! 🙂
Akiraa,
Thanks a lot for your visit,reading and comment on this post, I am very much thankful to you for your this precious visit, please keep coming, it is my pleasure to talk with you.
Wishing you all the best…………..
Glad you agree!
You teach a lot of things through a single post. Every time I read ur post thrs something new to learn. And I’ll surely try not to stand still because movement is the motive of life.
Meloheart;
First of all extremely sorry for the late response to this comment.
Thanks a lot for your visit, reading and comment on this post.
Your comment is as good as your good nature, it is always pleasure to read your very encouraging yet very thoughtful comments. Though, I am not appropriate person to teach anything to anybody, but whatever I have learned through this process that is what I am sharing with all of you, yes, good friends like you always taught me and I am learning through the people like you.
Why don’t you share your story it will be very beneficial for all of us.
Wishing you all the best………………
Hi Swajithkas,
Congratulations on reaching 100 followers! I am happy and proud of you. I don’t have much time to devote to my blog anymore, sadly but I am following another dream of mine. I am going on a business venture!
Best wishes,
Stephanie
Stephanie:
Can you imagine how much I am happy to see you here, frankly speaking, I am unable to express my feelings in the words.
I am absolutely thankful to you for your visit, because, your each visit simply gives me tremendous amount of joy, because, throughout this journey I had and I will have many many great moments and to meet you in this cyber world is one of them because my blog was just like a small baby and when I had hardly 10 followers and you joined me and today it has reached to 100, so, you are my true companion throughout this journey and during this journey through your feedback, comment and reply to my comment in my as well as your blog we shared some very very precious moments of our life, Isn’t it a strange world? we hardly know anything about each other and we are very much sure that in our lifetime we will not meet each other but the well wishes we have for each other is absolutely amazing.
You are going in to your business venture???????
You are going in to your business venture!!!!!!!!!!
“GOD BLESS TO SWEET ANGEL”
Hi swajithkas,
Sorry for my delayed response. I’ve been enjoying work and spending time with my family. I hope that you are well!
I see that your blog is ever growing, keep up the good work! Soon you’ll have 500, then 1000 followers! You truly deserve all your blogging awards~
Regards,
Stephanie
Hi there,
Congratulations, for 100 followers…you are extremely talented!
And as for your question…
I just write to clear my mind…I Want people to know my story…Because I cant interact with people face to face,So i write…I didnt tell any of my friends or family about my blog because I wanted to share my story with people who dont know me personally and so they dont judge me…
I dont think about the consequences,I just write what comes to my mind…
In this way i cope with it!
Much love,
Syntka<3
Syntka;
First of all thanks a lot for your visit,reading, comment and subscription of my blog.
I am absolutely thankful to your for your this wonderful friendly gesture. Your comment creates sweet confusion in my mind, should I appreciate your comment first or your friendly nature???????
Can you please reply me immediately?????????????????
Haha:-)
Your blog is really amazing!
And if i continue reading your blogs,I am sure that my vocabulary is going to improve…
You are really passionate about tour blog,and creative too!
Thanks for creating this blog because it will help everyone who is reading it…
And I was not sugarcoating you!!!
Your blog is really worth appreciation…:-)
Syntka<3
Though, it’s not straight answer of my question but let me start conversation, first of all it is your friendliest nature which compel me admire you because from very beginning of conversation your each word, your each sentences reflects that how much you are friendliest person, believe me if by any means I have reached from o too 100 followers it is your friendliest nature will be the back bone of it, because, in blogging world how much good you are at your writing is one thing but how you respond to your commentores, readers makes a lot difference and within this very short interaction you have proved to me that you are far more better than me in this area, are you agree with me?????????????????????????
I am not better than you in any way…Everybody has their own thing!…you are special in your own way…
And yes i am friendly…I love making friends…And in this blogging world ,it is very important to interact with your readers…
But the most important thing is to understand them…
Everybody is writing for a cause…And they are expecting some sort of respond from the person reading their blog…
And I am happy to respond to everyone…
I feel it encourages them…And it encourages me too!
If i Can make even a single person happy by interacting with them,I feel that i have at least done something good in life…
Much love,
Syntka<3
Syntka;
Through your this comment you have not made one person happy but many of my readers happy, so, at least for today you have fulfilled this target, now coming to the point, When I visited your blog, it is your posts compelled me to write to you but now it is your friendliest nature which compels me to reply you…………..
You mentioned that you want to understand the people, so how do you do that? can you please tell me so I to can learn something from you????????????
Haha!
You dont have to learn that…
Its just that every body has their own problems,their own stories to tell!
They write about those because ,they want people to know about it too…
Most of the bloggers seek answers or rather u can say solutions to their problems ,or any kind of suggestions or respond to their deeds…
And we the readers can provide it only by understanding them first!
We just have to keep ourselves in their place and think about their point of view…the way they see the world…
And if we can help them,It really makes them happy as well as us too…
🙂
Previously I was impressed with your blog, than your friendliest nature and now the maturity reflects in your writing and thinking process, so how many deadly weapons you have in your armory????????????????????????
Oh no! None..
Thanks..
I am hoping to read more of your wonderful blogs in future..
It was nice talking …
Till then,
Keep Dreaming!
-Syntka
So, dream is also one part of this armory???????????
you can say so…haha.:)
As you wish MADAM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Happy???????????????????????
I LOVE this proverb and this article. You are absolutely right, “Be not afraid of growing slowly, be afraid only of standing still.” That applies in so many areas of life, not just in writing. So many people worry about speed of growth, not the quality of growth. With new bloggers, this may cause them to write more, but the quality of their writing may suffer. Instead it is important to nourish ideas, and let them come naturally. This also puts less stress on the author. By the same token it is important not to be complacent, and to continue writing at a comfortable but steady pace, to slowly build a fan base. New bloggers should take it easy, and not write for others but for themselves, as it is their blog, their outlet.
As for your question, my first doubts plagued me in the form of lack of confidence, even though some people may not believe it from my strong personality. “What if no one likes what I write?” “What if I come off as too aggressive?” “What if I can’t write more than a few pieces before I lose inspiration?” “What if I make myself look stupid?” These questions floated through my mind even as I set my blog up. My boyfriend then gave me the final encouragement I needed. He told me that one of the many reasons he fell in love with me was because of my way with words, and because of the way I express myself through my work. He has always told me that he believes I should write, and that it would be a shame if no one ever read what goes on in my “beautiful mind”. He believed in me, and then he told me what I myself preach to others: “If people don’t like it, it doesn’t matter. All that matters is that you like it, and enjoy writing. Your blog is for you.” All doubt was removed, and I published my first article, then a second, then a third, and so forth. I do not mind growing slowly. I’d rather write one piece a week that I dedicate time to and believe in than a poorly written or halfway done post everyday. I know my writing style and themes are not for everyone. I know that my followers will not like EVERY SINGLE POST I put up. And I am okay with that. To write just for popular vote weakens the articles as a whole. My blog is just that. Mine. An extension of my creativity, and my beliefs that I am simply sharing to hopefully make someone laugh, think, or ask questions. At the end of the day, I am happy with what I write. This lifts an incredible burden off my shoulders when it comes to writing a post, because I don’t have any preconceived notions of what I SHOULD write. Do I have nagging doubts still at times? Yes, I’d be lying if I said otherwise. But I have support from my boyfriend, and my friends. Support is so important. Don’t be afraid to ask someone what they think of an idea or a post if you are unsure. You may surprise yourself! And I do apologize that this is so long but I wanted to answer the question thoroughly for those that may be having trouble.
Thank you for such a thought provoking post!!
First of all thanks a lot for your visit,reading,comment and subscription of my blog, I too did the same, so now we are fast friend, isn’t it???????????
First of all let me congrats your boyfriend first for having such a beautiful, sweet, smiling, wonderful,creative,talented, dynamic,vibrant, colorful and cheerful lady in his life, I salute his choice.
Now, let me thanked him for that he encouraged you to write and he is your source of inspiration as well support of your back bone, so, both of you deserve each other,
Now, coming to the point, your comment is very very clear and expressive as your overall thinking process and rest of your blog posts, no doubt about it??????????
But, one question, you have skill to write so you have created your own blog and started to write, but suppose there is someone who doesn’t have extra-ordinary talent to write or just say for example an average person like me start to write, create the blog, how he/should start? from where he/she should start?????????????
Eagerly awaiting your reply…………………………….
You are very welcome, and yes, we are fast friends indeed.
As for your question, if someone does not have much experience in writing, or is just starting out, it is usually best they start with subjects they know a lot about and enjoy. This makes the writing process more enjoyable and easier, which helps the flow of the writing. Another piece of advice is that when starting to write, one may want to do a quick outline of the idea he or she wants to write, such as the subject, how he or she wants to start, the point needed to be made, and how one is going to get there. It seems like a daunting task at first, and some people don’t think they have enough to write about to start a blog if they aren’t naturally writers, but they will find that the more you write, the more you want to write, as ideas come in many forms through everyday inspiration. Something else that may help is that if a person has expansive knowledge of one subject, they may want to make their blog mainly or entirely about that subject. It gives them more time to focus on improving their writing and finding a comfort zone instead of trying to worry about WHAT to write. In the end, though, no matter how one chooses to start, what matters is that they DO choose to start. The only way to truly never have a chance at a successful blog is to never try.
I would also like to encourage anyone that is apprehensive about writing to definitely share it with people they know, because all to often people will believe they have no writing skill, or that it’s no big deal, when in reality they are very talented.
Wow!!!!!!!!!!
What a wonderful words of advise, your views are very much relevant and especially for the newbee it is indeed very much useful, I do agree that somewhere down the line someone has to start, but, like your advice if they start they may succeed in less amount of time, I truly appreciate your solid suggestions, fruitful feedback, trustworthy tips and helpful hint, yes, all the suggestions are worth to implement, and yes, my many new bloggers or just readers will get proper knowledge and guidance from your these precious gems.
Wishing you all the best………………..
I am very glad to be of assistance! Sometimes all someone needs to begin their journey is a little advice and a little motivation, and the knowledge that no matter how successful someone is, even they had to start somewhere. Best wishes to you, my friend.
Same to you…………..
First of all, congratulations on reaching 100 followers 🙂
Your post was indeed long but I don’t regret reading it. You talked about the difference of dream and desire, which really caught my attention. I named my blog dreamdocumentary because the idea of “dreams coming true” is something everybody wishes for, but not many realise that they don’t just magically come true, you must work hard for it. It’s difficult to come out of your comfort zone and just do it, I find it hard myself sometimes, which is why I made the blog. It’s to keep motivating me and to hopefully motivate others as well.
Lastly, I just wanted to say that I really admire you for the way you interact with your followers! You view them as friends and communicate with them in a very honest way, and you actually leave meaningful comments which I always appreciate 🙂 I hope one day I can make as many friends as you.
Keep it up!
– your friend from https://dreamdocumentary.wordpress.com/
Natasha;
First of all thanks to you for your visit,reading and comment on this post, I truly appreciate that you have spared enough time to read my this post and comment on it, thanks for giving me most valuable, most precious and priceless gift of your time.
Regarding your comment;
Yes, you are right my most of the posts are too lengthy, so, I appreciate your tolerance power to read this lengthy post and I know my posts are lengthy and it will be because through one single post I would like to serve many objective, so, I have reduced the frequency of publishing, so, now onward I will bored you, I will test your tolerance power twice in a month, Happy???????
I truly appreciate that you have clarified the reasons behind creating your blog and let me honest till today you have performed far better because within very few posts only it becomes quiet clear for me that you have unbound energy, creative blend of mind, amazing abilities and tremendous talent, so, I am very much confident about your great future about your blog and your life too, I don’t know about your others but you truly inspires me because I know at this very tender age you have gone through many things and are going through it but not a single word of your posts reflects any negativity, so, you are living up to my as well as other’s expectations, wish you all the best for bright future.
“Lastly, I just wanted to say that I really admire you for the way you interact with your followers! You view them as friends and communicate with them in a very honest way, and you actually leave meaningful comments which I always appreciate”
Regarding your this comment I would like to have one clarification, no, I never view them as my friends but I view them as my extended family members scattered through out this world and I am more than happy to admit that now you are also part of this large family.
Last but not least……….
“I hope one day I can make as many friends as you”.
This is my answer to you…………
https://quotationsidiomsproverbs.wordpress.com/2015/04/01/as-you-sow-so-shall-you-reap-proverb/
Wishing you all the best, please don’t forget to reply this comment.
I am still a very new blogger, but I had been seriously thinking about starting a blog for two years before I actually did. I missed writing, as none of my classes really involved any. But I was nervous about the responses I would get. Finally I found my way to the blog of a friend, and the post I landed on first was titled “Just Do It.” It was about not putting off the thing you want to do any longer. I felt that starting my blog was something God was putting on my heart pretty heavily, so I “just did it.” I’m humbled by the feedback I get, and by other posts written by fellow bloggers as yourself! I had felt like I was at sort of a “stand still” in my life in those two years when I considered to start blogging. Over the past year, I have made minor changes in my life (such as starting my blog) that may not have seen like a big deal. But I am happier than ever 🙂 so I agree, progress does not always have to be immediate and a huge thing. Small steps add up!
Thank you for sharing your thought with us. I’m discovering this fact as well “Progress does not always have to be immediate and a huge thing.” But even one tiny step at t time does make a difference.
Welcome!
Nadège
Nadege;
First of all I am extremely sorry for the late response to your this wonderful comment.Your this very short yet very very sweet yet very solid comment made my day, Yes, even one small tiny steps can lead us to the major matters in our life…………….
Wishing you all the best………..
Katie;
First of all I am extremely sorry for the late response of your this comment.
Your comment is as honest and humble as your overall personality. I am extremely happy to know that even after two year you created your own blog, yes, it happens with most of us and it is natural process because we are simple human being and we do have lots of fears and doubt in our mind and especially when we start to do something or think to do something unusual that doubt that fear stops us to do the things we would like to do, but once we overcome that fear at that time already we realize that our fear was not real but it was only our imagination.
So, I congratulate you for overcoming that initial barriers and creation of your blog.
Yes, I do agree with you creating a blog is not big deal but yes to maintain it in proper order, to maintain it with proper perspective for long term of time and to keep happy and satisfy all the followers cum friends all the time is indeed daunting task, that’s why I prefer very slow growth because it gives you proper time to adjust to the new set of situations and circumstances, over the time you too will learn it.
One more time thanks and congratulation for creation of your blog because through your blog only I have found you and believe me to communicate with you is one of most enjoyable activities of my blogging life and I wish you will provide me more and more opportunity to communicate with you, am I expecting too much from my friend????????????
Wishing you all the best…………
Congratulations on your blog and followers!! It’s a great accomplishment to begin and maintain a blog and you do a fantastic job!! Your blog is so inspiring!! Thank You so, so much for sharing a bit of my story on your blog!! I deeply appreciate it!!! ❤ Your post here and your other ones are so uplifting & inspiring!
Kim
First of all I am extremely sorry for the late response of your this very very encouraging comment.
As you know your each visit on my blog makes me happy so today I am feeling the same, I wish, by visiting my blog more often you are simply increasing the amount of happiness in my life, you are truly living with cause to make someone happy unconditional & unselfish.
Wishing you all the best…………….
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You asked the questions “What were the initial doubts in my mind an how I cope with it?” After I lost my job, someone had referred me to another position in a law firm. Pretty much performing the same tasks, processing real estate and post closed same. I recalled sitting there being bored to death. I had realized the only motivating force behind my drive to work that boring job, (for which I was honestly thankful for), was because it was my only source of survival. At the same token, I had also concluded: “this is what I have done all my life.” I was a divorcee, with four children, so I had no choice. But now, the girls are all over twenty, here I’m following the same footsteps. Whenever I attempted to answer the following questions: “What is my purpose? Who am I? What is my worth? “Where do I belong? Without a doubt, my self esteem scored on the minus.”
As though the whole universe witnessed my despaired state of mind, and as token from their wish to extend their hands toward me, in order to pull me from my gloomy world; within the same period after I lost the second job, I felt a strong urge to start painting. To the point I was almost restless.. As if someone kept on whispering “You can paint, you can paint.” I was familiar with that nod for my writing. So I went to Michael’s and brought a canvas, some brushes and paints; and soon discovered that I had a natural ability to express myself to my artwork. It felt as if it was so familiar, and it was a therapeutic experience as well. I tried to look back during my childhood to see if perhaps that was one of my hobby, which I had forgotten, but I was told “no.” Of course with the exception of my fashion and my venting drawings in alllll my homework notebooks, when I was a yet little girl. Yes, I use to draw “A LOT” whenever I was angry. One of my masterpiece being a drawing of my mother with horns, after she whooped my but one day. LOL But to get back on my subject, during my art expression days, helped me to think clearly, and re-lived some of my childhood blocks. I recalled changing schools as often as my uniform sax. Being in different household, was like a daily meal. Both of these incidents occurred during my first seven years before my mother left for America.
Yes, while with my brushes and my canvas, I finally grasped the fact that I was different, But I was as well blessed with many talents, But I just did not know how to master them, writing being one of them. How often I would get discouraged for not finishing one of my short stories, or a poetry work I would start, or a new gown I would start sewing? It was a pattern with every venture I would start. So now I knew most of my weaknesses, I had to make an effort to overcome these major roadblocks.. One thing for sure, my attention spend was equally the same as a two year old. I’m not lying. This is a fact. Therefore, I was convinced one of the best attempt to help me cope with that as far as my writing is concern, would be to start my own blog. Of course, I was reluctant,at first, because I never feel I had anything to offer to anyone. My confidence level is also on a minus. As if, I was hunted by these constant whispers “You are not good enough. Or What do you have to offer?” I recalled one depressing afternoon, while wishing my death, as if a light bulb hit me, and filled me with the energy to fight back. So I got up from my weeping corner, and spoke to myself: “Before you die Nadège, you must give your contribution, you must leave your mark on this universe; within the heart of all those who will take the time to either listen to what you have to say, or read what you have encountered. You will love with all your heart. As well as forgive all those who’ve wounded you. And you will stand firm with your foot anchored on the ground, and you will extend your hand to those in need, those who’ve had to walk the same dusty and rocky dark road as yourself; and now are awaiting healing.” Yes, “I had a SCARLET O’HARA MOMENT!” You know, from “Gone With The Wind.”
Then I whispered to myself again: “They say, “Life is a …!” However, I will live to say that, “Life is a gentlemen.” For after it crushes one, it also knows how to extend it’s hand in order to open the door, for that same person to walk through whenever he or she decides to get up from the ground.” So my conclusion was: Why not start a “Humor blog?” I needed the laughter to help me deal with my life dilemma. With the hope in the process, my post will reach out to others as well. As for the other minus (————) in my life? Well, I never claimed to be God. A genius perhaps. But, still yet to be discovered!
One step at the time. For sure now, ” I’ m not standing still.”
Nadège
Nadege;
First of all thanks a lot for accepting my suggestion to comment on my various posts and result is in front of you, have you ever imagined in your life that one day you will write such a honest, well-written, thought-provoking, touch and most realistic comment on someone’s blog, no you haven’t imagined that but now it is reality so that is what I wanted to explain you that slowly and steadily remove all the shackles, remove all the chains, remove all the tangible and intangible blocks and barriers of mind, the more you break it the more it will develop your confidence and the more you will have a confidence the more it will inspire you to tackle more difficult task, so first of all congratulation for taking this tiny but tremendous first step, I truly appreciate your effort.
Now, coming to your comment,your comment is as good as your nature, your true personality.
” I was a divorcee, with four children, so I had no choice. But now, the girls are all over twenty”, extremely sorry to listen that but many a times in life many things happens which is beyond our control.
“What is my purpose? Who am I? What is my worth? “Where do I belong? Without a doubt, my self esteem scored on the minus.”
I am unable to understand while answering all these question why your self-esteem scored on the minus; now, see the matter from the different perspective and you will realize that it must be more than 100; because;
You easily digested your divorce, isn’t it a point of proud for you because there are million of people on this planet once they separated or divorced throughout their life they hardly recovers and instead of it you are living very good life, self sufficient, healthy and happy life and best part in spite of all these troubles and torture you raised not one but four girls and it is not point of proud for you? See, if you change your perception little bit, if you start to love your self, if you start to accept your self as a whoever you are, if you start to accept your self with your all the lack and limitations you will very soon realized that your are far better than many of your family members, relatives and friends, so, do not over analyse the things, do not regret too much about past, what ever happened it had already happened so there is hardly any point to regret over it.
I truly understand what have you gone through the first seven years of childhood.
Congratulation for being brutal honest in your evaluation;
“So now I knew most of my weaknesses, I had to make an effort to overcome these major roadblocks.. One thing for sure, my attention spend was equally the same as a two year old”.
I truly appreciate your fighting spirit and bounce back nature.
” I got up from my weeping corner, and spoke to myself: “Before you die Nadège, you must give your contribution, you must leave your mark on this universe; within the heart of all those who will take the time to either listen to what you have to say, or read what you have encountered. You will love with all your heart. As well as forgive all those who’ve wounded you. And you will stand firm with your foot anchored on the ground, and you will extend your hand to those in need, those who’ve had to walk the same dusty and rocky dark road as yourself; and now are awaiting healing”.
YES, you are really healing and I wish throughout your life the process will be continued.
Wishing you all the best……….
Please keep coming it is always wonderful experience to talk with you, you are very positive, vibrant, dynamic and colorful person anybody would cry or die to have a such a wonderful person in his/her life as a friend and I am fortunate enough to be your good blogging friend.
Wishing you all the best………………………
I’m pleasantly overwhelmed with your wise counsels and wisdom. I inhale them like a delicious gourmet food; and I intend to digest every morsel and crumbs. My cup is full indeed! Thanks to your contribution in aiding me to acknowledge same.
Now. I’m going to ask you an honest question. I won’t tell you not to laugh, because I know you will: “What is your name? Is it Swajithkas?” I searched for it on your blog but I could not find it.
Call me by any name whichever you prefer, now, I won’t telly you not to laugh.
One more question; does my name make any difference in who am I as a human being??????????
Does my name make any difference in the wonderful blogging friendship we are sharing with each other????????
Please don’t laugh………………..
Wishing you all the best…………….
Eagerly awaiting to read your very intelligent, elaborate, descriptive and very articulate comment on my other posts toooooooo………………….so, now on which post I should expect your wonderful presence, please don’t laugh……….
LOL. No, Not at all. But, I was just curious and wanted to know if the name on your blog is actually your real name. If it is, I think it’s an amazing name, truly rare.
As for my next post, let me check your subjects first.
Mmm! “Elaborate, descriptive and very articulate comment?” Are you sure you are talking about me?
After reading your comment on my post “Practice makes a man perfect” let me tell you very frankly, your comment is not just elaborate,descriptive and very articulate but it is much more than that, you are performing far better than my expectations…….
Yes, I am very much sure I am talking about the very wonderful, sweet, humble,honest,creative & talented lady named
Nadege;
Do you have any doubt about it???????????????????????????
Hello swajithkas, I apologize for not replying to your comment sooner. I had an extremely busy weekend. I have to tell you, after reading alllllll your compliments and encouragement, if by any chance I had any type of doubt about my great potential, this is certainly not the case today. My past doubts and low self esteem grew wings and flew away! I did not care to ask them where they were heading either. I just took a broom and started sweeping the dust they left behind, lol Thank you so much for taking the time to invest your wisdom into my life. Your blog is awesome!
Nadege;
First of all thanks a lot for your visit, your each visit, your each humorous and hilarious comments simply magnifying the beauty of this blog and this particular post, I am very much glad to know that slowly but steadily you have start to explore your true self to whom you have suppressed and oppressed till today the more you will start to love your self the more you will start to love everything around you and when we know that God has given us only one life so why not use it, utilize it in best possible manner, and you are truly doing this, your mild, encouraging, supportive, co-operative nature, child like happy state of mind, wonderful writing skills these are the skills God has given to you so without having any doubt or hesitation in mind start to live your life in most satisfying manner the aura, the vibration it will generate, it will not charge-up you only but it will charge-up all around you and you will feel that the entire universe is dancing, laughing with you…..
Wishing you all the best…………
You are quite popular Among the folks u know. I had to scroll down for a long time to speak up.
Since I am an author, I don’t say that loudly though because only 2of my novella have been published till date I wanted to start a blog for my readers to know more of about the upcoming books but when I got into the task it wasnt too easy for me.Then I saw that the blogging university was abt to strt a new crse for beginner bloggers I joined it and you helped me throughout. I changed the theme of my blog to india and Indians, it was much easier to write about my country than writing about my novella. And I dont regret my decision .As for the blog on my upcoming novels its a projecting I thinking to uptake soon this year.
Meloheart;
First of all thanks a lot for your visit,reading and comment on this post.
As always your presence on my blog simply makes me happy and when you pass such a wonderful comment happiness increases manyfold.
I truly thankful to you for creating your own blog just imagine for a moment, if you have not created your blog have we ever met?????????
No, simply no and if you have not met me on this cyber world my blogging journey would be not that much satisfactory as it is today, thanks for being my close companion on this journey, I am more than happy to admit that there are many bloggers with whom I feel very comfortable and you are one of them and I wish throughout the life we will share this close companionship with each other…………
Wishing you all the best……………….
Your blog is really inspiring. I really appreciate and applaud your honesty and nature.
Congratulations on having 100+ followers. Hope you reach great heights. 🙂
Alda;
First of all thanks a lot for your visit,reading,comment and subscription of my blog; I too did the same, so, now we are official blogging friends, isn’t it?????????You are most welcome on my blog, I wish, by following each other’s blog and commenting on each other’s blog withing very short time we will become good friends, isn’t it????????
Thanks for you very honest and inspiring comment, it gives me immense pleasure to read such a nice complement from my new friend, but do you know, while visiting your blog and reading your some of the posts what I realized do you know????????????I have to learn a lot from you………..
Wishing you all the best………..
Keep blogging 🙂
You too!!!!!!!!!!!!
Without keeping any worry of tension about your outlook appearance, you are beautiful inside.
Wishing you all the best…..
Thanks a lot! xD
Look, now you have changed your self esteem little positive and you have started to experience the positivity from the external world, moral of the story, accept your self, love your self in whichever or whatever form you are because creator of this universe is very wise magician and he has created everything including you with some specific purpose, so, start to enjoy the life…………..
I have no problem with my body… I am happy with however I am.. Just that it sometimes hurts when people constantly pick on it
Im happy that you reached the “100 followers” mark. I checked today and it shows 107 actually. Here’s to the next 100 or should I say 1000 followers!
Netta;
First of all thanks a lot for your visit,reading and comment on this post, frankly speaking, I knew that since last few days you are not blogging so this post might have gone out of your attention, but I was sure when you will read this post you will comment on it so thanks for keeping my trust intact.
Regarding your comment;
For reaching 100 followers mark credit goes to the good,creative and talented friends cum followers like you; from whom through out this journey I have received unconditional,pure and crystal clear love, solid support, fruitful feedback, helpful hints, so ultimately it is you peoples credit and the same love,affection, support and co-operation will be provided by good friends like you 1000 mark does not seems difficult destination.
Wishing you all the best………..
Do I need to say how much I like your blog and well written posts, keep it up the good work you are doing through your blog for all the mankind and especially for male.
Note: the of use “you” below is an easygoing way of implying the universal “one.”
Jean Paul Sartre was long-winded, but a short-winded remark sticks with me: “l’enfer, ces’t les autres” (hell is other people). In short, don’t define yourself in light of others’ opinions; believe in yourself.
I will qualify that a bit when it comes to writing. Be open to informed critique rather than latching on to feel-good praises. The latter is all well and good. However, as noted in this blog, practice is the making of a writer. Revise, revise. Throw out cliches, strung-out structures, and vapid adjectives and adverbs. Find purpose in every word or let it go.
“Look for the clutter in your writing and prune it ruthlessly. . . . Is anything pompous or pretentious or faddish? Are you hanging on to something useless just because you think it’s beautiful?” –William Zinsser, On Writing Well
As the wise writer of this blog says, “Practice, practice, practice.”
Have the courage to be your own good critic. Enjoy positives exchanges with fellow bloggers. Have fun. Writing should never be an act of desperation.
Catherine;
First of all thanks a lot for your visit,reading and comment on this post.
I truly appreciate your this friendly gesture, there are many great days in my blogging life and today is one of them; the reason; blogger/writer of your class,quality, stature and status has visited my blog, read my post and commented on it.
Honestly speaking, If I have met you earlier my writing might have improved up to great extent but any way it is never too late, thanks for your constructive and creative criticism.
This is one of the best comment I have ever received in my blog.
“Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder”
― Plato
Wishing you all the best, please keep coming I am in badly need of some one like you who help me to hone my writing skill so I can more quality work to my all the readers.
Thanks……………….
My post was not meant as constructive criticism of this site. It was directed to all of us as bloggers to do our best as YOU said in your recent posts: practice, practice. You are such a kind, giving soul–please do not think I came here to examine your writing. In the spirit of your blog/outlook, we can all become improved human beings.
In effect, I deeply appreciate your exhortation to “practice.” When I share something, it is meant in general (I’m not sure whether I was clear about that in my earlier post). I merely shared some writing points that have helped me along the way. I constantly remind myself of these fundamentals.
You are a lovely, charming person. Keep sharing and growing. So many already appreciate you.
Far be it from me to specifically tell anybody how to write. ; )
Catherine;
Once again thanks a lot for your visit,reading and reply to my comment.
I think now a days Great God is more favorable to me because your this comment is much more sweeter and solid than previous one.
There are few points I would like to clarify;
As you said it is not constructive criticism so let me change the word and let us consider it as a “friendly discussion”, now happy??????????
But changing the word doesn’t change the reality, whatever points you have mentioned in your earlier comment are true treasure for me, it is as precious and priceless for me, why???????? because, your each word reflects how much you are caring about me and my writing and you want me to enhance, improvise and for that you have suggested some simple suggestions and I truly appreciate it because when you care about someone than only you take time,efforts and energy to improvise that person, so, I am truly touched by your love,affection and care towards me, I wish, throughout my blogging journey you will shower me with same love,affection and care, I am quiet confident that you will not disappoint me.
“You are such a kind, giving soul–please do not think I came here to examine your writing”.
“You are a lovely, charming person. Keep sharing and growing. So many already appreciate you”.
I TOO FEEL SAME ABOUT YOU…………..
Wishing you all the best
To be clear: YOU were the WISE blogger I referred to and quoted!
Catherine:
“To be clear: YOU were the WISE blogger I referred to and quoted”!
So, at present I am not????????????
Eagerly awaiting to read your reply, I truly admire and appreciate your frank and brutal honest opinion.
Wishing you all the best……………..
Please amend the tense (“were”). I was referring to a moment in time–when you actually wrote the post. Nothing has changed. The great point about all this–that you ARE the wise blogger because you emphasize the word “PRACTICE.”
My response to your blog was to echo your important point by sharing a few writing tips from a writer and teacher I admire. These tips were NOT directed at you as a writer. They were merely individual observations that have helped me as a writer for a number of years.
In my very first post here, I noted the use of the word “you” before I wrote the observations. The use of the second person pronoun “YOU” is not direct address in this case (i.e. addressed to a specific blogger); it is used in the sense of the universal third person “one/he/she.” Therefore, the receiver of my comments is NOT an individual. In other words, it was general–with no specific person in mind. Simply put, I endeavored to make the post casual by using second person “you.”
I suppose that did not come across clearly. Does that make sense now?
I am concerned that you think I’m critiquing your individual blog. I would never do that to another writer in an open forum such as WordPress. In fact, I am embarrassed that it came across this way.
In short, I was swept away by your eagerness to put yourself out there and to emphasize your own self-admonition to PRACTICE. I love all the inspiring quotes you use. I just followed it up with some simple points that help me.
I admire anyone with the courage to express himself/herself. That is the beauty of the Internet and its democracy. WORDS BELONG TO EVERYBODY. It would be presumptuous of me to disrupt that beauty by criticizing someone brutally.
I am embarrassed, indeed mortified, at my lack of clarity in conveying my thoughts. Again, none of my remarks are/were intended for you as an individual writer. From day one, they were merely rephrasing of a writing teacher’s ideas–and repeated by me in GENERAL.
I hope all of this is clear now.
I do not visit other blogs to critique. I go there to enjoy. To do otherwise would be unsporting. I visit your site only to enjoy your thoughts and enthusiasm. No more. No less.
Let me know that you understand–so I will not be so embarrassed. Kind regards, ch
Catherine;
Once again thanks for your all the explanations; I do understand your feelings and like you I am too extremely sorry that in spite of our sincere efforts, proper care and very noble intentions somewhere down the line there were some communication gap or misunderstanding but at the end of the day we are mature,kind and noble-heart people so this types of small incidents can not spoil the relationship we are sharing as a blogger, as a reader & writer.
So, be rest assured from my side that I am quiet clear in my mind and I do not have any ulterior intentions or prejudices for you.
Wishing you all the best………..
Lovely post. I’m so glad you are flourishing, expanding and enjoying your blog stay. May you have many more followers, posts and joyous blog moments.
Dr. Sweety;
Thanks a lot for your visit,reading,comment and very sweet well wish. Yes, I do like to have more followers but I wish my most of the followers should be like you, A sweet human being, well-versed writer, kind companion, solid supporter like Dr. Sweety Shinde……….
Wishing you all the best………….
Yes, I’m sure your followers will have all the variety you wish.
Dr. Sweety;
GOD always grant wishes of pure heart and looking to purity of your heart, I don’t think, God will ignore your this very pure wish.
Since last few days, I haven’t read anything from you on my recent posts, they are dying and crying for your feedback, please have a mercy on all these posts………………
Wishing you all the best……………..
Just been super busy. I haven’t even written a blogpost. Will try to pay attention to blog world this weekend.
Dr.Sweety,
Thanks a lot for your visit,reading and comment on this post.
Yes,it seems you were busy, because being a professional doctor you have to take care of all your patients but in spite of all do not forget your die-hard fan like me, who always eagerly awaits to read something from their favorite blogger named Dr. Sweety!!!!!
Wishing you all the best…………..
You are very sweet. Of course I enjoy reading my fellow blogger’s posts.
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Hi swajithkas
I’m completely new to blogging. Therefore this post of yours was greatly motivating for me. I do write quite regularly but i’m still in doubt about my skills. But this post was an inspiration for me. thank you for this. I wish that one day, number of followers of my blog also reach century!
Congratulations to you! (I know i’m late…sorry! 😛 )
Wish you all the best.
Keep posting 🙂
Keep inspiring us!!
Chhaya;
First of all thanks a lot for your visit,reading,comment and subscription of my blog.
I am very much thankful to you for your this wonderful friendly gesture.
Yes, you are absolutely new to the blogging world, but withing very few posts you have shown enough talent and potentiality and your writing is absolutely amazing.
Keep it up the good work you are doing.
Why don’t you comment on my other posts too, it will boost up your confidence to comment on other blogger;s blog, it will help you to express your true feelings and emotions discussed on other topics and moreover it will help you to be familiar with other bloggers too because through your comment you are visible to lot many people and from then you will find some good friends, think seriously about it, and if you feel my suggestion is worth to implement please follow it without any hesitation and you will see the result in very short span of time.
Please keep coming I am enjoying your company.
Wishing you all the best…………………
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Hi! Decided to follow, I read one of your posts! I plan on reading the others soon, and I’d like to know when you post them! Thanks again for your wonderful comment! I’ll talk to you soon!
Sarah;
First of all thanks a lot for your visit,reading,comment and subscription of my blog. I too did the same.
I am truly thankful to you for your this wonderful,kind and very encouraging friendly gesture.
I wish, by following each others posts and constant communication with each other within very short span of time we will become best blogging friends of each other.
What do you think??????????????
Wishing you all the best………….……
Be not afraid of growing slowly, be afraid only of standing still. I love that proverb and your personal story about reaching 100 followers and about not giving up. I also like that you defined the differences between the words dream and desire. Very true.
Hello,
First of all thanks a lot for your visit,reading and comment on this post.
I am absolutely thankful to you for your this very kind friendly gesture.
It gives me immense pleasure that notable,distinguish blogger like my post and taken time to visit it.
Wishing you all the best……………
Belated Congrats on reaching 100! A great proverb and a great post on how you related your blogging experience to it 🙂 I started blogging as a creative outlet where I could connect with like minded people who also enjoy writing…initially I did not know if there a right or wrong way to blog…i just continued posting…but the whole experience really clicked for me when I started connecting with other bloggers and leaving my thoughts on their post …it has only been a year and half since i have been blogging and I still have lots to learn so here’s to a wonderful blogging experience for both of us!
Thanks a lot for your visit,reading,comment and subscription to my blog.
I am absolutely thankful to you for your this very kind and friendly gesture.
Please accept my heartfelt congratulation for crating very inspirational,unique and cool blog, to visit your blog, to read your posts are most enjoyable experience to me.
Regarding your comment,
“initially I did not know if there a right or wrong way to blog…i just continued posting…but the whole experience really clicked for me when I started connecting with other bloggers and leaving my thoughts on their post …it has only been a year and half since i have been blogging and I still have lots to learn so here’s to a wonderful blogging experience for both of us!”
We both are sailing in a same ship, congratulation for very remarkable progress in very short span of time.
Please keep coming, I always like to connect with like minded souls and you are one of them with whom I will always like to connect.
Wishing you all the best………
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It is great that you are building a following. I love the unique blogger idea – that is great! Good luck on your continued success.
Hello,
First of all thanks a lot for your visit,reading and comment on this post. I truly appreciate your this very friendly,kind and supportive gesture. It gives me immense pleasure to know that you like the concept of “unique blogger’ and thanks for your well wishes, I too wish, same sucees and glory for your very useful,informative and inspirational blog.
Please keep coming, as you know blogging is all about connecting with like minded souls and you are one of them with whom I always like to be connected.
Wishing you all the best………….
Well written my friend 🙂
My initial doubt in making a blog, or anything I attempted to do in life was the criticism. As much as I’d like to say it doesn’t bother me at all what other people say or think about me but in realty, I do, don’t we all?. I think we both can agree that we all want to be accepted as who we are and our biggest fear is being rejected.
Once I started posting my writings, It was amazing to see the stats go high each morning. I found it so rewarding that there are somebody out there reading my story. I just hope that whoever is reading my stories can find comfort.
Thank you so so much for your amazing support and I can’t wait to share my new chapter with you!
Ava.
Ava,
First of all thanks a lot for your visit,reading and comment on this post. I truly appreciate your this very warm,kind,friendly and supportive friendly gesture.
Regarding your comment,
Yes, when we are quiet new to blogging, most of us, feel the same about being rejected, not only in blog but in any new chapter of our life, and according to me it is quiet normal, because, from birth, society trained us in such a manner that we always depends upon others for the justification of our all actions.And yes, at a times, it hurts, it can create pain, but, if we train our SKIN TO BE LITTLE THICK, I don’t think we have more trouble in our mind and pain in our heart.
Yes, I am agree with you
“I think we both can agree that we all want to be accepted as who we are and our biggest fear is being rejected”.
Yes, your blog stat is going high and it will go high and high, because, you have very amazing and extra-ordinary blog, your subject selection,writing style,presentation are too good, and it is indeed enjoyable experience to visit it.
Please, you can share your new chapter with me, I will be more than happy to read it, or rather part of that chapter, because, I have created this blog to meet some of the amazing and awesome bloggers like you,and more thing, we both are good communicator and like to talk with each other, so, I wish, within very short span of time we will be close friends.
Please keep coming, I publish twice in a month, so, to visit my blog will not be much more trouble some task for you.
Wishing you all the best…..
Great post
very important points
when I started blogging I was
Comunicating with Arab people only
then by the time I discovered new bloggers from several countries
I was happy to share my thoughts with them
But blogging is just a small part of my life
I have a family and I am the only one that is responsiple for them
So I shouldnot use the internet more than 2 hours aday
I Benifited from your post a lot
your blog is interesting
and congrats you have 100 followes friends
you made a great effort
thanks
Soheire,
Thanks a lot for your visit,reading and comment on this post.
Thanks a lot for your “Congratulation” on 100 followers, I wish, like me you too will achieve many mile stone every now and then in your blogging life.
It gives me immense pleasure to read that slowly but steadily you are making friends with diverse class,culture,race,religion and nationality through your blog.
I am little bid sad to know the story of your personal life, whenever you have spare time read this post,
https://quotationsidiomsproverbs.wordpress.com/2015/04/14/blessing-in-disguise-idioms/
you will simply enjoy it, and please do not forget to read the comments also, after reading all the comments you will realize that you are not alone passing through rough patches of life, there are many people, suffering more than you,sometimes it is beneficial to read sad story of others, it simply,proves us that we have far better condition that others.
Please do not hesitate to share your story, I will respond you in most positive manner.
Wishing you all the best………
Hi Swajithkas, I hope you’re well. I haven’t been in blog-land for a while, but now that I’m back I thought I’d check on you to say hello.
I want to use the say of this blog for one of my posts on my new blog because I think its so relevant to where I am now. Tx for finding all these interesting sayings and elaborating on them for our benefit. I think that proverbs and idioms is wisdom summarised in one sentence.
I’m also happy to see that your followers are now over 200. Congratulations!
The saying is true, don’t be afraid of growing slowly only of standing still.
Hope the next 100 followers join us soon.
Netta,
Thanks a lot for your visit,reading and comment on this post, I truly appreciate your this very much friendly,kind and supportive gesture.
First of all, congratulation for your new blog MY JOBLESS LIFE (I have attached link here, so anyone can reach to your blog), as you know, I have already subscribed to it and believe me I am regularly reading your posts on both the blogs and I am enjoying your very well written posts.
Thanks for your well wishes of bright blogging future, I wish, due to grace of GOD and constant support from the good friends like you I will do my best to maintain this blog in most inspirational manner.
Please keep coming, it is always enjoyable experience to talk with you.
Wishing you all the best